Recently we have been discussing how to become an emphatic listener. However, notably a huge amount of communication is done through body language.
If 80% of what we say is communicated through our body – it does well to remember how we hold ourselves when communicating with someone.
A big one for those who communicate while sitting down these are a few postures which may give away how you’re feeling without you realising. (Especially at parent teacher meetings!)
Are you at fault of any of the above?
If so here a few tips on how to have positive open posture
- Maintain eye contact – but be careful not to stare.
- Beware of blinking too much – it may communicate that you are uncomfortable or nervous about the conversation topic.
- To increase participation in a conversation, look like you’re interested!
- Don’t cross your arms and legs!
- Nod when your talking.
- Lean in but not too close – remember personal space when talking to someone!
- Mirror the language that people use when talking to them – it shows your listening and allows them to reflect on what they have been talking about as well.
- Have confidence – don’t look nervous – it will come across as disinterested.
- Keep your head up high.
If you want to know learn more here a few readings to start you off:
- James Bong, Body Language: 7 Easy Lessons to Master the Silent Language (Peasrson Education: Sep, 2009)
- Patti Wood, Snap: Makinig the Most of First Impressions, Body Language, and Charisma. (New World Library , 2012)